Back with another video and this time I wanted to jam about setting healthy boundaries.
Why is this important? Because we all want to be able to give to those around us so we sometimes say yes when we really mean no.
This is self-sacrifice.
Imagine you are a cup and feeling full on love is your optimal state.
In order for you to give to others freely you need to have an overflow to give.
When we don’t take the time to fill our own cup we become depleted. (We also need to be be open to receiving love from others to help fill our cup… but that’s a subject for a whole other video )
We all need time to recharge.
And sometimes that requires us to set aside quality “me-time” and fully commit to ourselves.
But maybe you’re still feeling some guilt? Fomo? Wanting to please others?
Try this belief on for size instead…
Setting healthy boundaries isn’t selfish. It’s actually an act of self-love.
We can’t give what we don’t have.
Another perspective to look at is oxygen masks on airplanes. You can’t help someone else unless you put your mask on first to breathe.
Want to dive deeper into this? Answer these questions for yourself:
How present are you when you aren’t a full yes for something?
How does that effect your relationships and your energy?
How do you want to show up for others?
What can you do to take care of your needs first to be able to give to others from a more high vibin’ place?
Happy boundary setting!
And remember… it’s not personal when someone else sets a boundary with you. They are just being honest and honouring themselves and by doing so also honouring you.
Photo from Unsplash, edited by me.